I don’t want to talk here about expectations as ‘Clean your room’ or ‘Put your dirty clothes to the basket’. It’s your decision when and if you will teach your kids how to behave and how to be independent. More important for me is what person you want to raise. I always wanted to make my son as happy person as possible, good for other people and to not to waste his precious life for ‘stupid’ reasons.
Some parents expect too much from their kids or not enough. It’s really hard to keep your expectations just ahead of your children’s capabilities. We as a mothers know our kids better than anyone else. We should know what they are able to do. Unfortunately nowadays we know some parents who are planning what exactly their kids will be doing in the future. They’re choosing schools, universities, jobs and even partners. Subconsciously they are doing everything to push their kids in direction which they chose for them.
We should ask ourselves: Will our kids be happy in the future if they will meet our expectations? What we want from them can be really different than what they want. Very often our children are scared to disappoint us so they’re forgetting what they desire. Do you really want to make your kid miserable? What if he doesn’t want to be a doctor or lawyer? Maybe he loves to baking or dancing?
Don’t try to make your child someone who was created by your imagination. Let him choose what he wants to be, what he wants to do in his life. I want to believe that I will accept everything what my son will choose in the future. I hope he will be not hurting other people because of his choices. I will accept what he will wear, how he will looks like and I will love him no matter what. And you? Did you choose a path for your kid or you will let him to do that by himself?