Finding a babysitter can be a challenge for many parents. and same was in our case. First of all, we did a good research. We were asking our friends and family about someone who could take care of our son. We were really happy when our friend suggests her cousin. She had a really good opinion and people who knew her said only good things so we were more than happy.
In the beginning, we believed we’ve found perfect babysitter
Our son loves to be with his babysitter it looked like he enjoyed her company. I was really grateful that we have her. Obviously, I wanted to stay with my son more than anything but I had to come back to work. Unfortunately, I’m not a millionaire. We were thinking what to do to make the best decision for our family. I’m working on shift 2-2-3 and my husband could find a job with the same pattern but on opposite shift. But we didn’t want to see each other only in the evening. So he took a normal shift from Monday to Friday. And it wasn’t so bad. We had a good babysitter which didn’t cost thousands and we could spend together two weekends in every month.
We thought it works
But it didn’t. Our son started to behave in a very strange way. He was very frightened when someone said something louder or dropped something on the floor. Our little boy was crying when he saw a babysitter’s home. I had a feeling that something is wrong there. I asked my friends if they know something. And one of them told me that she has a rough time because she is pregnant and she is very stressed. I thought maybe she is scared or something and my son can feel it.
Unfortunately, it was worst and worst
My son started to hiding when my husband wanted to take him for a walk because he thought he is going to stay with a babysitter. It was too much for me. I had to find out what’s going on. The fact was that she acted like a crazy b*tch. She was shouting and yelling at everyone. I guess also on my son that’s why he was so scared. I believe it was because she lost her pregnancy. But she could tell me that she is not able to take care of my son. I’m a woman and a mother and I understand perfectly that she had a really bad time. The only thing I don’t understand is why she didn’t say anything. I don’t want to even imagine what my son had to go through. To be honest I can’t be sure for 100% that she didn’t hit him or shake him etc. I’m trying to not think about it because I have remorse.
Even if your baby can’t talk he can show you that something is going wrong. React to everything that’s alarming you. You need to be suspicious even If you will spot a little change in your baby’s behaviour.
Now I regret that I left my son with someone else than me or my husband. I thought it will be better for us but we should put our baby in the first place. If he will be happy then our whole family will be.