Let’s face it when you becoming a parent you can forget about sleep
And it’s not just you but most of the parents. Simply that’s how it works. Even if your baby is good sleeper he will be hungry during the night or he will have a wet nappy or he would like to cuddle. And that’s OK. That’s how little babies are meant to be.
I know, it’s not an easy job. Sleep deprivation can be a real pain. Believe me, I was there. I was crying, praying, begging for more sleep. But nothing works my son was waking up at least two times during the night and it wasn’t easy to put him sleep again.
I wanted to find any solution for my problem so I read some books and went through thousands of websites. I found something called ‘cry out’ method. A lot of people was saying that it’s really working. So I’ve tried it and I hated it immediately. I couldn’t stand my son’s cry so I was crying with him.
If you’ve never heard about that method (cry out or Ferber method) you probably want to know what it is.
So here is a definition:
It involves “baby-training” children to self-soothe by allowing the child to cry for a predetermined amount of time before receiving external comfort.
I’ve decided that I don’t want to punish my son only because he wants to be close to his parents. He felt comfortable with us which wasn’t a surprise. You are a whole world for your child. It’s logical if your baby doesn’t see you he doesn’t feel safe.
I didn’t want to stress my son only because I wanted to sleep through the night. Maybe I should be more egoistic but I prefer to think about my son. How he feels and what physiological impact will have that kind of training. Even some pediatricians do not recommend this method because leaving babies to cry without comfort causes a rise in a hormone called cortisol, a stress hormone. Prolonged increases in this hormone inhibit brain and emotional development.
In the end, we’ve decided that our son eventually will learn by himself how to sleep in his own bed through the night. And that was our best decision. Now he is 19 months old and has no problem with falling asleep without mommy or daddy. We know our son so we knew he is ready for it. And one night after his bath we fed him and left in his cot and he didn’t protest. He falls asleep just like that. Without crying, stress, and tantrums.