Congratulations you are pregnant! You did everything that you should to became a perfect Mom. You read all smart books about babies and pregnancy. Probably you attendant your birthday classes. And you were ready. So ready that you didn’t expect that something can go wrong. You thought it will be a beautiful fairytale. Until you became a Mom and realised that you didn’t know that very IMPORTANT 5 things about motherhood.
1. You will never have a warm coffee again.
Yep. Never ever again. It’s good to have a microwave you can try to warm it up every 10 minutes or on next day when you eventually will have time to drink it. It’s always the same story. When you think you did everything that you should, for example, change a nappy, clean a house, feed a baby, did a laundry etc and you think it’s a good time for a coffee your sweet baby will figure out how to ruin it.
2. You need to prepare yourself to face harsh judgement.
You need to know that everyone will know better than you how to raise your kids. What’s most annoying even people who don’t have kids will know better than you how to treat your kids and they will tell you what to do if they will behave not properly. Sometimes even some strangers will judge you. And the best thing you can do is not give a single f%$#ck. Just do your best.
3. Sometimes you will hate your kids.
It’s not a real hate and it lasts maybe for couple seconds or minutes. They have a gift how to make your life miserable and how to make you depressed but they do it because they love us and that’s how they express that feeling. You need to know that when you will start thinking ‘why I didn’t buy a dog instead of having kids’ it doesn’t mean you are bad Mom. You are a normal one.
4. You will be devalued.
Hopefully, you have a good husband who understands how hard is to take care of kids and clean house but some people think that being a mother is as easy and it’s not a hard job. They will devalue what you do with your kids. They will tell you that you doing nothing special so you can’t be tired.
5. Planning doesn’t work.
You think you know everything so you’ve planned your first year with a baby but it’s really big mistake. You shouldn’t plan even a next hour with your kids. They are so unpredictable and they can destroy all your plans in a second. So don’t even try it’s a waste of time. They can even ruin your birth experience. I had a really nice plan but everything went wrong.
You should know one thing before you will become a Mom: motherhood is not a fairytale. It’s one big mystery. You can’t plan it and you can’t predict how it will be. Every Mom is different, every baby is different and every motherhood experience is different. But it’s exciting journey with a lot of ‘unknows’. It’s really rewarding when you can discover everything together with your baby. But there are things you will not like and it’s perfectly normal.