I’ve never feel like that but after I became a mother apparently in the same time I became invisible. I assume that most of you have the same feelings. Friends promised to visit you but suddenly nobody came? You sitting at home with baby and thinking ‘hey do I still know how to speak in human language or only gugugaga’? Maybe you will never know because you are invisible for adults. Probably you don’t know that you borrow from Harry Potter his awesome invisibility cloak.
Anyway even if someone is coming to your home they coming to see your baby (no, not you). If they talking with you there is only one topic: yes, your little one. It’s ok because you love your little precious but it could be nice to talk with someone even about stupid weather.
I’m not angry on my friends probably they think that I’m too busy or I’m not funny anymore. Ok, I don’t think about partying all the time or drinking alcohol but I would love to go out for coffee. Gossiping a little bit could be nice as well. No matter what. I want something what I can do with people in my age. It seems that I have new superpower- invisibility and I need to accept that at least for now. I hope that soon my friends will have kids and start calling to me for help:D I count on it.
I don’t loose my personality, my identity. I still know who I am. Of course being a mum and having a little baby change my life and turn it up side down. I’m sure that for most of my time I only think about LP, his feeding time, naps time and so on. I want to cuddle him even all day (till the end of the world and one day more- I know I know he will be to old for that but who cares;P).
But I want to have something for myself. It doesn’t need to be something big. That’s why I start this blog. My own diary, my escape from every day life. Chance to meet new people (adults if you prefer:P) even if it will be only online friends. I hope that community will grow and we will be helping each other 🙂 That’s my plan! If you are with me tell about it in comments 🙂 Share the love!
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I totally feel invisible sometimes too. Even from people I didn’t expect that from like family. It’s a shame but their loss because in my opinion I’ve only become more interesting! 🙂
29 August 2016 at 22:21I think the same! Who can be more interesting than Mummy 🙂
30 August 2016 at 08:32Wonderful intro! I pretty much started my blog for the same exact reason. Lol. Best of wishes to you.
30 August 2016 at 00:47Thank you love 🙂 I hope you doing well with your blog
30 August 2016 at 08:31heys…hugs, although I’m not yet a mother, being in adulthood and a different stage of life effects me to have lesser friends as well. Then slowly we will begin to know which is those that we can click with in the next stage of life. *we can be friends* *winks*
30 August 2016 at 10:21Of course we can 🙂
30 August 2016 at 12:16Some days I have almost signed things “Adam’s Mum” because that seems to be my name! #DreamTeam
30 August 2016 at 13:52You even don’t know how I understand you!
30 August 2016 at 14:11It’s funny that you said that Rachel because in Korea (where I lived for 4 years), moms call each other by their kids’ names, just like you said, “Adam’s Mum”, etc.
30 August 2016 at 19:52Is not a little bit sad? They see you only as a Mum not as someone else
30 August 2016 at 20:10I remember walking outside for the first time without my kid in his stoller and feeling like I was naked! It felt like everyone was looking at me because they couldn’t look at him. It’s true. You do feel invisible sometimes.
30 August 2016 at 15:34It’s the same for this Dad. The moment I had children my friends visits depleted and unless they know how to speak baby (or work related), I have forgotten how to have an adult conversation #DreamTeam
30 August 2016 at 22:35I hope it will change soon 🙂
31 August 2016 at 15:24Congratulations on owning your feelings and starting this blog for yourself! You deserve it!
31 August 2016 at 04:32Thank you love:)
31 August 2016 at 15:24Blogging is a great way to find yourself again and to take off the invisibility cloak! Thanks for linking up with #EatSleepBlogRt
1 September 2016 at 11:37It is so incredibly easy to loose yourself when you become a mom. These are all the reasons I decided to start a blog. #EatsleepblogRT
1 September 2016 at 15:39Most of us start blogging because of that reason:)
1 September 2016 at 20:05I’m sorry you feel invisible. I found a new identity when I became a mum, one I’d been searching for such a long time. Then again I was one of the last of my friends to have children – it sounds like you were one of the first. Good luck with your blog,it’s a really great community. If you want to chat any time I’m happy to be part of your community and support. #EatSleepBlogRT
1 September 2016 at 17:25Thank you 🙂
1 September 2016 at 20:05I know exactly what you mean and I lost a lot of friends after having my children and felt invisible a lot of the time, and lonely! Thanks for linking up to #PicknMix
Stevie x
1 September 2016 at 23:29I love that meme about the superpower!Good luck with the blogging – it’s good to get those feelings out! #anythinggoes
2 September 2016 at 10:58Definitely was invisible with my first – but this time round with the blogging and increased confidence I feel slightly less invisible! I think being a Mum is probably one of the loneliest things I have ever done. Still like you say its good to have a superpower 😉 #EatSleepBlogRT
2 September 2016 at 21:09I am with you here – in fact the other day I was offered a job and suddenly realised how out of touch I am with my old friends. It’s so easy to do and exactly why I started writing too. Keep it up, it’s a fab outlet just for you 🙂 Thanks for linking up with #dreamteam
3 September 2016 at 15:26blogs are a fabulous way to find yourself again.
12 September 2016 at 23:16Thanks for linking up with #tuesdaytreasures
thank you for stopping by 🙂
13 September 2016 at 16:23