I was the best Mom before I became a real one

Mom number one

Mom number one

Oh, Yes. I was the best one! I knew exactly what I will be doing with my baby. How I will raise him and of course that we will have rules at home. Spoiling my baby? No, never. I even didn’t know how people can do that to their children. I was like an encyclopedia. I knew everything about kids. What and when they should it. When they should sleep. What is good for them and what’s bad. I was a perfect Mom. I was as good as those from magazines and TV commercials.

Yeah, I was. Till I became a real Mom. And honestly, I can say I’m a normal one. That one with failures and mistakes. Now when any of my friends without kids are starting their sentence with ‘If I will be a parent my kids will not…’ My reaction?


And it’s a hysterical laugh. I was there, people and now I know that parenthood is unpredictable. You can’t know what you will do if you are not a parent yet.

OK, it’s time to laugh at me a little bit

So what I was assuming before I became a Mom?

1.I will be breastfeeding my baby because the breast is best!

Yeah, right. Now I know that fed is best and you can say whatever you want. Not every Mom can breastfeed her baby which is sad.

2. My baby will be sleeping in his own cot. Bedsharing is not for us!


Did I really say that? I don’t know what I was thinking. First day at home with our little one and our first night in our bed. Yes, we are sleeping with our baby when he is waking up in the night or he is sick and doesn’t want to sleep alone. And you know what? We love it!

3. My baby will have only what he needs. Not spending money for toys, clothes etc.


You should see me right now. I’m laughing, so hard. I can’t go to any shop without buying stuff for my boy. I’m like an addict.

4. My baby will be eating only healthy food.

I need to say I was trying very hard and till his first birthday, he tries something sweet maybe two or three times. I’m still checking ingredients but I’m not such a big freak and when he wants sausage I’m fine with this.

5. I will try to use cloth diapers.

Sorry, no time for it. Unfortunately, because I know how many shi**y things are in disposable diapers.

6. I will be cooking separately for my baby. No jars for him.

And again hysterical laugh. NO TIME for cooking even for myself.

7. My baby will be drinking only a water. No juices, etc. 

Yeh, we have a big fan of juices.

8. We will have time for ourselves and we will be going out without our baby from time to time.

What time? Plese, can you say it once again? I think I was drunk when I was saying it. To be honest we can go out sometimes without our son but we don’t mind to take him to our friend, or restaurant etc. I know we are masochists.

9. My baby will be not watching TV. 

I was trying hard with this one as well. But now when I can go to the toilet without him only when he is watching some cartoons I don’t mind. It’s really nice to pee without an audience.

10. I will be potty training our baby as soon as possible. 


I gave up for now. He prefers to play with his potty. Or putting his legs inside or pretend it’s a car. It’s really hard to explain to him what actually it is.

That’s how my list looks like folks. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who wanted to be a perfect parent and failed with this. Also, I know we are the best Moms and Dads for our kids. We always will be failing, doing mistakes etc. That’s how real parenthood looks like. And I love it. Every day I learn something new. My son is my favourite teacher. The first lesson from him? Perfection doesn’t exist.


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  • Reply Kate

    Really important post and I empathise with every one of your points of comparison with plans and real motherhood. Perhaps we can credit ourselves with showing out children they don’t have to be perfect either.

    24 October 2017 at 21:40
  • Reply Sarah

    Great post, it’s so easy to list all the things you won’t do as a mum until you actually have kids and it all goes out the window! #DreamTeam

    24 October 2017 at 21:51
  • Reply Morgan

    Haha! This is hilarious AND accurate! I, too, was the best mom until I became one!! Bring on the TV and junk food.
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    26 October 2017 at 03:31
  • Reply Rachel

    I definitely have had to eat my words a few times but in general I feel like I had a realistic expectation. I think it helped that I helped raise my brother and sister.
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    26 October 2017 at 03:52
  • Reply Dana

    Love this, your point of view definitely changes after actually having children – that’s for sure!

    26 October 2017 at 13:24
  • Reply Debby

    This was exactly me in the 90s raising my kids. Good to know it has not changed. I also was going to make homemade baby food! New moms think that everything is going to permanently harm kids but that is not so. Best advice, do everything in moderation!

    27 October 2017 at 22:45
  • Reply amber battishill

    I think that so many of us are guilty of saying or believing a few of these statements prior to actually being a mom. I know that I definitely did and I’ve completely broke my own “rules”.

    28 October 2017 at 01:18
  • Reply Lisa (mummascribbles)

    Oh my, this is so true! All completely spot on – Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    29 October 2017 at 21:23
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