I was thinking about writing this post for a long time but today I met a couple. I know it’s nothing ordinary but that couple made a big impression on me. Why? They looked like they are together but in the same time-separate. They were holding their hands and looking at their phones. When did that happen that people can’t talk to each other? It’s so sad that we can’t leave without our phones, iPad, tablets etc. And you know what’s making me even more sad? That our kids are suffer because of that.
How it’s possible? Once I was in a bus with my son and in front of us was a lady with her daughter. She could be around 9 years old and she was really annoying. Her mother all the time was telling her to stop act like a weirdo. But you know what? She even didn’t look at her because was checking something on her phone. She didn’t look at her for a f*cking two seconds. It’s obvious that this little girl wanted a little bit of attention.
How you want to raise your kids if you’re spending your whole time to check your facebook, instagram, twitter? Who knows what else… If you want to make them a good people you need to spend with them a quality time. You need to be with them not with your phone. In fact your phone doesn’t need you as much as your kids. Yes, I know you need to charge a battery from time to time. Oh, Yes of course you need to choose some really cool case. Oh wait…but your kids don’t need to get some meals to have a power for playing and exploring? Or maybe they don’t need a clothes? Chose by yourself what is more important for you.
I’m a blogger and I know what I’m talking about. Everyday I have a lot of emails, I need to write some posts etc. So I’m checking my phone to be on a time with everything but on the end of the day what is more important? Emails or my baby’s first steps? Can I afford to lose it? Of course not. Never ever. My child is the most important creature in my life. So when I will have a free weekend you know what I will do? I will switch off my phone and I will be the most happiest person because I will be with my son for 100%.
And what you will choose?
27 Comments
It is sadly a very common sight to see a couple or family out for a meal together with some or all of them on their phones. I fall guilty myself from time to time. Its good to be mindful, that’s for sure!
21 March 2017 at 21:19It’s actually ridiculous. I was at the park the other day with my daughter and every single parents there, over ten, all were playing on theirs phones. Some were sitting on the bench, some were even pushing their kid on the swing! It was disgusting. What are we coming too.. #dreamteam
23 March 2017 at 09:04Yeah I think the same. We should have some detox sometimes. Went to a place without phones, tabletes etc:)
23 March 2017 at 20:33Whilst I agree with you that this time is important with our children, it’s also important to consider that there may be another side to the story. There is a great article online entitled ‘Dear Mom On The iPhone’ that is a great read. There may be a reason why a Mum is on her phone – work (so she can work at home to look after her child), her other child, her sick mum or dad. I don’t think it’s for us to judge.
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Oops. Forgot to mention #FamilyFun
23 March 2017 at 15:47Of course everyone can have their own opinion and obviously I’m not saying about those situations when you need to be close to your phone because you will get very important call or etc
23 March 2017 at 20:34I loved this as it is the flipside to a blog i recently read all about not judging mums on their phone. You never know the other side of the story. I was at the park with my son the other day. I spent the entire time on my phone whilst flicking my eyes up keeping an eye on him. He has been a grumpy shit lately and i have spent every second with him playing and doing fun stuff as well as working nightshifts getting about an hours sleep a day. So for 20 min at the park i managed to connect with some people and catch up on stuff. I really enjoyed your post dont get me wrong its good to see the flipside of the argument and I know how bad I am for judging people sometimes. #DreamTeam
23 March 2017 at 18:36Pam lorimer recently posted…Mug Cakes
I’m not saying that I’m not doing it but sometimes we should do a little break. Spend time without phones because nowadays it’s like our ‘right hand’ ;P
23 March 2017 at 20:36I have a rule about my phone, if I am out with my friends, kids or husband then I only look at my phone to respond if it’s urgent. I now in a habit of never looking at my phone when out so I can enjoy the moment #familyfun
23 March 2017 at 21:39This is so so true… I find that when I have days off I try and spend each alternate half an hour technology free so that I can spend quality time with my little man… #brilliantblogposts
24 March 2017 at 08:45I agree with the comments, sometimes we need to remember that we don’t know why a person is looking at their phone, it’s not always cut and dry. I try not to sit glued to my phone when I’m with the children but sometimes, if we are at soft play and they are off playing, I will take that opportunity to send out my emails or reply to comments, because I’m pretty much redundant from their plans! #brilliantblogpost
24 March 2017 at 11:52five little doves recently posted…Celebrating Mothers: Getting up close and personal with Honest Mum
Of course you are right but nowadays it’s really common that people can’t speak to each other and to be fair we giving phones, tablets to our kids even when they are very young
24 March 2017 at 20:36I can see both sides … The person may be checking their phone because there’s an emergency or something, but if not, then put it down and be in the moment. It’ll never come again but that FB post will be there later
24 March 2017 at 13:29Tubbs recently posted…Neko Atsume, the Kitty Collector Game. A Favourite Waste of Time
Yes I agree but in this case I don’t think it was important she could explain to her daughter that she need to do something important and than she will speak with her etc but she even didn’t look at her
24 March 2017 at 20:34This happens everytime to me. I’m in the restuarant with my family and everyone is on their phone. Then why take me out to the restuarant when they are not bothered to speak to me or even one another? Personally, I try not use my phone on nights out and having limited data really helps with spending less time on the internet
24 March 2017 at 21:58Im totally guilty of this but changing now! social media these days take over your life. Its so important to have 1:1 with your kids as it will affect them later in life
Sarah
25 March 2017 at 10:17http://www.mycitymylondon.me
Like you, I get really annoyed when I see parents ignoring their children becaus they’re on their phones. There’s a time and a place.
25 March 2017 at 20:15My online community is my life line really. If I’ve not chatted to human adult all day it gets pretty tiring. Being on my phone is a connection with likeminded grownups. I don’t spend all the time on my phone but don’t think we should judge those who are on the phone either… we don’t know what they are doing. I think given the choice most people would choose the child any day. Thank you for linking up to the #familyfunlinky
25 March 2017 at 20:31Karen | TwoTinyHands recently posted…Time for #FamilyFunLinky
Good point, it is more important to pay attention to your kids than you’re phone. Fair enough if you are doing something important on your phone but just time wasting stuff like Facebook, Instagram is probably not the best use of time when around kids.
25 March 2017 at 21:40This is a great topic for everyone. We need to take time off away from our mobile phones. We should spend more time doing things with our loved ones. It will benefit everyone.
26 March 2017 at 03:52I see this a lot too as my nephew is always on a tablet or one of his parents phones. We need more quality time without phones and tablets. He even takes it a step further because his parents bought him an iPad even though at the time he was only four. A four year old doesn’t need a tablet. He needs to be outside playing. I thought I was bad getting a phone at the old age of 13 when my nephew at 4 already had an iPad boy was I wrong. Great post.
26 March 2017 at 07:17Yes! It’s such a terrible habit, but hard to control, especially when you’re raised in this generation with having all the answers at your fingertips and the instant gratification. It’s a need to feel like we are belonging to society and not missing out on anything ! Love this post ! xox
26 March 2017 at 21:47I’m probably worse at home when N’s doing other things. When we’re out and about it’s usually because I’m using it as a camera. #brilliantblogposts.
26 March 2017 at 23:04I have been trying to put my phone away most of the day and only use it certain times so that my son has my full attention. It’s a small step, but I hope that it helps him know that I’m here for him fully!
27 March 2017 at 00:16I needed to read this. My phone broke a couple of months back and it was so refreshing to not have it. Now it’s here again and it’s just there to use. I need to put it down more. Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
27 March 2017 at 21:25Lisa (mummascribbles) recently posted…Mummascribbles meets…Muffin Top Mummy
Very true. With the availability of the internet and access to so much distractions, people are forgetting to live in the real world. Thanks for the reminder, I would definitely make it a habit to spend more time with the kids.
28 March 2017 at 22:18Leo T. Ly @isaved5k.com recently posted…26 Tips To Buy Your Dream Home With Confidence
I love this post. It’s so interesting because of course, whilst I agree there’s a time an a place for phones, at the same time there could be a million and 1 reasons why it’s being checked so much. Like, an emergency situation, or maybe checking the time because they are running late. It may be more important than we could ever imagine. Who knows really. Thank you for sharing with the #DreamTeam, really thought provoking xx
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