I got married 3 years ago. Our son is 6 months so for 2 and a half year I had my husband only for myself. And that was our conscious decision. Of course for some people we were weirdos because we did’t start trying for a baby. But You know why I get married? Because I love my husband and we wanted to spend our whole life together. For a long time I thought that is the main reason why people want to be a wife and a husband. Unfortunately that question ‘When you will have a baby?’ was our nightmare.
On the beginning when we said at work that we will gonna get married people was asking if I’m pregnant. Dear Lord it’s really strange that after 5 years we wanted to take our life to the next level? It was so funny because some of them said to me ‘Oh hi I heard that you are pregnant. Congratulations’. Wow I need to admit that was funny and a little creepy in the same time.
Finally when they realized we weren’t expecting they started asking ‘When’? So I heard from them that probably I have problem with fertilization and I stopped being polite. I said that is not their fu*king business. And they stopped. Unfortunately is not so easy to say ‘fck off’ to your family members.
The worst part was when my husband’s uncle started to touching my tummy and asking if is someone is there. And…I wanted to say ‘What the Fck. Do you have mental problems?’ but instead I only smiled and said ‘No’. What was nice our parents knew that we weren’t ready for kids so they didn’t ask. I can’t say that about our grandparents especially grandmothers. They were really crazy.
Lucky for us, that whole s*it ended up, when we found out that we were going to have a baby. That was happened one moth after we decided that we are ready to be a parents. We were happy that we were strong and didn’t want live up to everyone’s expectations. And we love our son from the moon and back.
I can’t understand why some people think that marriage means kids. I wasn’t egoistic (as I used to heard) I wanted to spend time with my husband. We wanted to travel, meet with our friends, go to cinemas, lie in the bed all day. We knew that there will be a day when we will feel that it’s time to try for a baby. We wanted to make that decision only for ourselves not for other people.
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